You may have been told an aspect of who you are is a liability or undesirable. These comments hurt because they attack a part of who we are. We know this seemingly negative manifestation of a trait has shown up in ways beneficial to ourselves and others. Subjectively personality traits are helpful or hurtful, but traits in pure form are actually neutral. Keep that thought in mind when you evaluate yourself and others.
A seemingly negative personality trait is actually an asset if used for a positive function. It isn't the trait that's positive or negative; rather, it is how we harness these elements of ourselves that can be good or bad. Perhaps you are quick tempered, and react to things quickly and fervently. Likely, this trait makes you a rapid decision maker in moments of crisis or confusion. Conversely, you may know someone who is laid back and unhurried. He or she might not make quick decisions when called on to do so. However, in times of crisis this person keeps people calm and level headed.
As an exercise, ascribe to a few elements of your personality a positive or negative value. Review your negative traits and jot down a few ways to use them productively. Try the same exercise with a friend or loved one. You may develop a new appreciation for who that person is.
The staff at Focus C3 wants to see you advance in life. We can help you assess who you are and develop ways to use your unique style and personality to move forward. Find out more on our website.
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