The Functional Side of Dysfunction

By any means necessary, sometimes that's the approach people take to meet a need. Maybe you've researched a widely accepted and tactful way of getting what you want. Perhaps someone suggested you take a "common sense" approach to solving a personal problem. Maybe you've developed certain behaviors to fulfill unmet needs. Some of these approaches and behaviors are seen as dysfunctional, but we need to rethink such labels.

If a person's behavior achieves a desired result, isn't the behavior functioning for him or her? If it is possible for a number of behaviors to achieve the same goal then all of them are functional. Rather than thinking in terms of functionality we need to view the various habits and actions we rely on to meet needs as either positive or negative. For example, scheduling and planning out sensible meals and binge eating both function to quell hunger and provide nutrition. One is a positive way of meeting needs, the other is not. By taking our focus off ending dysfunction we keep our focus on the need itself and the various methods of obtaining it. We also avoid labeling people as dysfunctional.

Try adopting this needs-focused mindset at work or in your personal life. Then look for new positive solutions to meet the need. The unresolved conflicts or undesirable behaviors are functioning to meet some need or achieve an objective. Just trying to end the arguing, annoying behavior, or negative attitude leaves whatever need those approaches were fulfilling unmet. Collaborating with others on a positive means of solving the issue or fulfilling the need also creates new tools for yourself an your collaborators that may prove useful in the future. Having a number of positive approaches promotes problem solving rather than negative reactionary behavior to fulfill a need.

The functional side of dysfunction is not always readily apparent. It may help to discuss your behaviors, habits, and thinking with a professional. At Focus C3 our counselors and coaches help clients develop positive behaviors and thinking to help them productively achieve goals and meet needs. Find out more about our services and unique approaches on our website.

Where to begin your care.

From the day we are born we need help. Early on it isn't too hard to ask for it. Babies have an innate mechanism to cry to have needs met. As we mature and our needs become more complicated, it becomes seemingly harder to ask for assistance.

So where do you start? There are a few questions to ask yourself to find out where to begin. Is your need mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, financial, or relational? Are you struggling with day-to-day responsibilities? Are you lacking in a certain skill or knowledge? Do you have personal or business goals that haven't been reached? Do you need help to get a new business idea off the ground?

Answering those questions helps determine what type of assistance you may need. At Focus C3 we offer counseling, coaching, and consulting to move you forward. The idea though is that each service is designed to lead to the next. We want to see your business, organization, and personal life thrive.

If you start with counseling to work on your mental health needs then you may want to start tackling a major project. Our coaches can help you discover and use your values, ideas, and resources to get the project done. Our consultants can then work with your organization or company to develop solutions that address needs or advance ideas. No matter where you start all services are available should the need arise.

To get more on where to start on our continuum of care complete the Best First Step Assessment on our website by clicking here.

Rethinking Personal Traits

You may have been told an aspect of who you are is a liability or undesirable. These comments hurt because they attack a part of who we are. We know this seemingly negative manifestation of a trait has shown up in ways beneficial to ourselves and others. Subjectively personality traits are helpful or hurtful, but traits in pure form are actually neutral. Keep that thought in mind when you evaluate yourself and others.

A seemingly negative personality trait is actually an asset if used for a positive function. It isn't the trait that's positive or negative; rather, it is how we harness these elements of ourselves that can be good or bad. Perhaps you are quick tempered, and react to things quickly and fervently. Likely, this trait makes you a rapid decision maker in moments of crisis or confusion. Conversely, you may know someone who is laid back and unhurried. He or she might not make quick decisions when called on to do so. However, in times of crisis this person keeps people calm and level headed.

As an exercise, ascribe to a few elements of your personality a positive or negative value. Review your negative traits and jot down a few ways to use them productively. Try the same exercise with a friend or loved one. You may develop a new appreciation for who that person is.

The staff at Focus C3 wants to see you advance in life. We can help you assess who you are and develop ways to use your unique style and personality to move forward. Find out more on our website.

Déjà vu never happens

Have you ever said to a friend, relative, or coworker that he or she, "always does this". Perhaps you've muttered to yourself, "this happens every single time". We may get a sense of Déjà vu but in reality the exact circumstances surrounding an event never repeat the same way every time.
Our lives may settle into a pattern of "stability" where things are seemingly predictable. However, every day changes occur in the various systems that make up the world in which we live. The good thing about this constant state of change is that even undesirable situations aren't permanent.
So the next time you dread a repeated misfortune or sense that inevitable failure, try to identify what is different this time around. That sensation you get that a negative situation is repeating itself is a cue to try a new strategy not a time for despair. Resources may be different this time around. You might now be acquainted with an expert who can help you solve your particular problem. Perhaps you now have the opportunity to apply a new skill that can address the issue. Likely, there are strategies and resources you haven't considered.
At Focus C3 we use the Focus model to identify resources and strategies with our clients that help them advance in life, business, and relationships. Find out more about taking the first step toward building your arsenal of strategies on our website.

Changes both big & small

Think about how small of a problem it takes to change our mood and throw off our daily routines. It really doesn't take much does it? Now, these negative instances should give us hope rather than cause despair.

The hope we have is that small changes can equate to big results. We can make positive adjustments to our mood and daily life with small positive changes. A full-scale revolution in habits, emotions, relationships or thinking is a not likely. However, if a small shift is made in any one of these areas it is enough to produce results at a number of levels.

Just like a small shift in the earth's crust sets off a massive tidal wave, we can set off a swelling force of change in our life by trying a new strategy. The key to harnessing this force is identifying the need for changes and developing a plan to implement them.

Which skills do you need to move forward? Is there an event in your life holding you back? Maybe you have the plans for positive change but you don't know how to implement them. Focus C3 can assist your organization, company, even your family in developing and implementing a plan for advancement. Find out more on how we can help via our website.

Chaos process & change

We often think it is necessary to make big changes to solve a problem. However, the chaos of the various facets of our lives makes it very easy to make small adjustments that produce the desired results of "big changes".

You may just need to adjust how you think about an issue. Maybe a current relationship needs to be redefined. Taking the initiative to make some minor changes is an important step. It means you are already doing something different than before. This small difference sets in motion changes that may not be immediately perceived.

Experiment a little and see how a small change can produce greater effects. Try a new route to work, surprise your wife with flowers, talk to a struggling coworker. These actions inject something new into the chaotic system of our lives. You may not see a change immediately, but you've dropped the proverbial pebble into the water by doing something different.

At Focus C3 we apply chaos process theory and our Focus Model to find which positive adjustments you can make to thrive in business, relationships, and personal endeavours. Find out where to start with our free assessment here.

The Benefits of Professional Development

Over the past few months my colleagues and I have met for weekly case discussions and supervision. The value of these sessions is immense. Gaining an outside perspective, utilizing the experience of others, and expanding treatment / strategy options benefits not only myself but my clients.

The process in our meetings is not unlike a therapy group or group coaching session. The team members here at Focus C3 come from diverse backgrounds. We all benefit from that diversity. It opens up windows to unknown areas in our professional lives. That same process can develop new understanding and strategies for your church, company, or life. We want to move you forward with our new continuum of care.

Find out more here.